Question : Valentine's Day - No flowers for gf but hampers for customers.?
Hi, I've posted the qn on the implication of not getting any flowers on Valentine's Day and what shocked me is he can order online CNY hampers for his customers (from noel gifts) but not any flowers for me. I spent 2 evenings till late shopping for his presents and card (and spent quite a sum) but I get cheapskate stationary for my presents. I really don't know what to say. I feel very sad. I got a feeling he's trying to "educate" me in not receiving any flowers on V-Day in the future and I'm not an understanding gf if I ask for them (in that I want him to burn a hole in the pocket) 'coz they are extremely expensive on that day.Hi all, thank you for your replies. I'm new here and I don't know how to reply to your answer. Guess I will do it here. He doesn't get any other things for me, esp flowers during the rest of the year. He already tell me very clearly he will not give me any flowers on Valentine's Day before the day 'coz he thinks it's not worth spending so much and if I were to want that, I am not understanding towards him. He always says my gifts to him are cheapskate and "no heart" (for eg I gave him gift boxes from robinsons containing wallet/belt) etc where in fact I always try (very hard) to buy the practical things that he want and can use. After every occasion, I spend more than him and upon getting my presents, I'm very upset and also in return, I get comments saying I have no heart and buys cheapskate stuff when in fact, upon comparison, I spend more than him!
- asked by Sad Blue Pooh
All Answers:
Answer #1
Hi. As a girl i can understand your feelings. However, he might not know what
you are thinking and some guys just do not know how to express their feelings or
care. Although you think that he's trying to 'educate' you, he might think that
it's the thought that counts and not the gift. So maybe you should try to talk
to him first and see what's his reasons for not getting you flowers?
- answered by blurqu33n
Answer #2
Well u know that it is not suppose to be the cost, it should be the fact that he
got you anything. I tell people that they do not need to go out and spend a lot
of money, after all is it not suppose to be about how you feel about each other,
just a hug, kisses, I love you should be enough for anyone, cause you are
getting the real thing then, not something that you can buy, not always the
things that you buy are the best presents. Maybe he just did not know what to
get you, cause all day he orders flowers for people, thinking , well that is so
common. Remember you did not have to stay out late and get him something that
cost a lot of money, you did it cause you wanted to, but also you were expecting
him to think the same way as you were, the cost. That is not what it is
about....
- answered by Ladyofathousandfaces
Answer #3
Does he do things for you throughout the rest of the year? If so, I'd quit
complaining if i were you. If not then it's time to re-consider the
relationship.
- answered by Jennifer Z
Answer #4
time to change bf
- answered by Apricot Brandy
Answer #5
Tell him flowers aren't the only things to buy on VDay. A dinner out, a pair of
earrings, etc...
- answered by TJTB
Answer #6
I think I know how you feel. I have a daughter who is a florist. For the past
several Valentine's days, she's really hated the day because she spends all day
for a week getting beautiful arrangements ready for other men to give to their
girlfriends, and at the end of the day, nobody sends her flowers. So this year,
she has a boyfriend, and he did not send her flowers because he thought that she
wouldn't like them, working around flowers all day as she does. Sometimes men
just need to know that you would really like a certain thing, and they should
all know that most women consider flowers to be a perfectly romantic and
charming gift. It shows you are thinking of her as a thing of beauty. Or
whatever, it just shows you care enough to spend way too much money on something
that will die in a few days, but for all of the girls who don't get flowers,
they just resent all of those girls who do!
- answered by Sweet n Sour
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