Question: Why would hubby give me flowers for valentine's day if we are seperated and heading toward divorce?

Answer #1
Maybe he wants to reconcile or maybe he just cares and its just a nice gesture.
- answered by mypassions4life

Answer #2
hes trying to say sorry and make up with u it seems like...
- answered by Twiztid_Klown

Answer #3
Yes he obviuosly still cares for you. Maybe divorce isnt what he wants, try to reconcile with him, it might be the best thing you ever didCan people please go to my profile and answer my most recent q. It wont show up on the singles and dating page for some reason. I need some advice
- answered by Jumpy

Answer #4
he wants to make up.
- answered by nestorian

Answer #5
He still loves you and wants you to know it. It is that simple
- answered by CHRIS S

Answer #6
Its pathetic is what it is. Man up and just let it go. I'm sure your a nice lady but ask yourself if youve given him any kind of hope he can hang on to.
- answered by csiders30

Answer #7
apparently the guy still loves you its a natural thing
- answered by scott b

Answer #8
Maybe he wants you back in his life that's why he's acting like a drama king.
- answered by Kisses

Answer #9
It's a guilt trip.. plain and simple.
- answered by ♥♥♥♥~sweet one~♥♥♥♥

Answer #10
He could be feeling really lonely. He could be feeling like you are lonely and need a valentine from him. My ex-husband bought me flowers the first valentines day we where apart because he had done it so many times in the past it was just old hat. But it didn't mean anything. I don't know anything about your divorce so I wouldn't be able to say for sure. If you want it to mean something maybe you should ask him...
- answered by Debra

Answer #11
Sounds like he still cares about you-even if you don;t work it out you were an important part of each others life, or you wouldn't have gotten married.
- answered by 2princesses

Answer #12
I'd say sentiment. Sounds to me like he made a very caring nice gesture to you. Depending on how long you have been separated it may also have been a force of habit. Either way, accept the kind gesture and be happy.
- answered by jenny

Answer #13
Who knows? Letting go is hard sometimes. Is he having doubts about divorce? Probably. Is he having doubts about your marriage? Well, you're "headed for divorce" and seperated.I think it's human to have a lot of mixed emotions, and it's harder for some to let go than it is for others.
- answered by Greg

Answer #14
sentimental---maybe he feels the # of yrs you have been married has been worth it no matter what
- answered by nickle

Answer #15
The question is, are you still hanging on. If so, don't wait until it's too late to reach out to him. Most guys will always love their ex-wifes in a way that most gals don't seem to understand. I guess that in itself doesn't mean he wants to have a relationship with you, but for heavens sake, if you still do fight for it. If he is only trying to show you that he loves you and isn't "in love" with you he'll most likely tell you if you ask. Us guys are really a lot simpler than you make us out to be.Good luck!!
- answered by pcdoc59

Answer #16
he still has hope.
- answered by Kurt Sullivan

Answer #17
Maybe it's best to acknowledge the gesture - tell him that it's a very nice sentiment and that you appreciate it (why does he still have keys to your car, by the way?). See what his response is. Couples on the road to divorce often have second thoughts along the way. You need to think hard about what you want if he is having second thoughts though.
- answered by greyrider

Answer #18
i believe he wants to reconcile if you'll give him another chance? but it seriously depends on how bad the situation was that has ruined your marriage... maybe you should think through or talk with him again... my hope is that you two reconcile... it's just a happier ending, i guess :D remember EVERY relationship has to be worked upon DAILY for it to work out... maybe you two fell into a rut/routine and it became so bad that you two started neglecting each other... or you two started seeing only the bad points in each other... wish you the best in whatever you decide...
- answered by wat_more_can_i_say?

Answer #19
Some of it depends on what you know of him. In general, people are creatures of habit, and on days of high anxiety or expectations, to sink into old routines is only naturla. It's the raseon couples break up after the holidays, and old college reunions end up with the same old coupleshooking up again if they're still single. It's a comfort zone, and on an awkward day, it makes sense to retreat to the comfort zone. If the divorce is a mutual, civil thing, then I'd say he is feeling sentimental about the past, and the roses show that he appreciated those years, no matter what you're going through now. If that's all true - it's actually a nice gesutre....I hope I helped, at least with amybe a different persepctive. Good luck with everything!
- answered by helper_for_life16

Answer #20
I feel this is a definite sign tha the still loves and cares for you. Wow to be so lucky lol:) That was very thoughtful of him to do this for you. How romantic! Why are you seperated and headed for divorce if i may ask. Is he the one that is wanting this divorce or is it mainly you who wants it and wants out. I think your marriage means alot to him. Ask him about it and see what he has to say. I think there may be hope for your marriage after all. Are you ready to work on your marriage again if he wants it?
- answered by LadyHewitt

Answer #21
It sounds like he is trying to play on your emotions to get you back. If he has issues with violence and depression he needs to seek professional help otherwise there is no hope in making a marriage work. He will continue to follow the same abusive patterns...
- answered by Cute But Evil

Answer #22
i would ask your husband what does he mean by giving you valentine flowers if you two are going threw the divorce ask him does that mean he don't want a divorce
- answered by sweet granny 06