Question : Should I send my ex-girlfriend flowers for Valentine's Day?
I dated my girlfriend for a year and a half. She was 20 and I was 27. Despite our age differences, we were very much in love. About 5 months ago, she wanted to “take a break” because she felt she was to young and she felt she was holding me back. Not being an idiot, I knew “take a break” is girl talk for “I want to meet other guys.” So I told her if that’s what she wants, we’re done. She knew I treated her like a princess and her family told her she was crazy to leave me. She wanted to go out and party but have me on the side (cake and eat it too) She didn’t want to lose me so we didn’t break up. So for the next two months, we had problems and I eventually broke up with her because she was acting like we were “on a break” (for example, giving guys her number, not telling guys she meets that she had a boyfriend and such). We had a bad break-up and she did what all women do, called me a few weeks ago, tells me she thinks about me each day, let’s me know she’s dating someone else (who she met one week after we officially broke-up) and then tells me that she moved on and so should I. Basically, she opened an old wound to watch it bleed although she said she was calling to be nice. I disagreed. Regardless of the post break-up fallout, I did love her very much and I believe she did love me. They only part of our relationship that was bad was her age. I believe if she was older, or I was a younger, we would still be together. And one day in the future, I hope the chance will be there. So my question is, what do you think if I sent her flowers on Valentine’s Day? Nothing else. I haven’t talked to her in a few weeks and I won’t do so on Valentine’s Day either. I know she has a boyfriend, and I know the traditional thought is to ignore her and just move on, but I want to send the flowers to remind her that I do love her despite what happened. On the otherhand, I don’t want to send them because of her wanting a “break” from me and the fact that she started dating a guy shortly after we officially broke up. Is it a good idea to send the flowers? What would she think?
- asked by LTP
All Answers:
Answer #1
DONT SEND FLOWERS!!!!!!!!She is an ex.......which means she should be Xed out of
your love life!!!!!!!!♥
- answered by Dance♥
Answer #2
DON'T SEND THEM!!! It gives the message that you're pathetic and still hung up
on her even though she dumped you and is dating the other guy.
- answered by Mystery Woman
Answer #3
Do not feed her ego .... no flowers !
- answered by pallo
Answer #4
If she were your ex and she did love you and you loved her. then yes i think
flowers would be nice on valentines day but nothing more just something to
resemble your friendship
- answered by DramaQueen101
Answer #5
No, don't do anything unless you want to get back with her sooner or later. GOod
luck
- answered by Elusive ()Ne
Answer #6
I don't think you should send her flowers. She moved on. So should you.
- answered by someone
Answer #7
Sounds like she is trying to get a few presents on Valentine's Day. Just bite
the bullet and DON'T send her anything on Valentine's Day. If you have the need
to send something, send her a e-card. They are free and it is a nice gesture.
Besides what would her new dude think if she gets something from you?
- answered by indygurl3
Answer #8
i dont think u should unless u really love her but if she doesnt like u anymore
it might just blow up n ur face
- answered by dat girl
Answer #9
No! Don't send them! You need to make it as if the whole break up thing isn't
getting to you at all. That will bother her and if you have any chance of
getting her back sending her flowers isn't one of the ways. You already treated
her awesome so trying that again is only going to hurt your disposition. I say
fall back and do your own thing if she really loves you she will come back its
best to stand your ground. Don't allow her to know she can have you whenever she
wants. She will be pondering why you didn't contact her on valentines day etc.
it will get her thinking!!! trust me!!!!!!!!!!!!
- answered by x_ampz_x
Answer #10
I read this and my mind screamed DON'T DO IT! Just don't send her flowers. As
you said, your ex is dating someone new and is opening old wounds for you. That
phone call was to gauge how much you have been wanting her.Look, my boyfriend is
around your age and I'm around the age of your ex. If we had a falling-out/break
up like you two had and he sent me flowers, I'd considered him still whipped and
I'd be able to use him if I wanted to.She's obviously immature. Only an immature
woman would string a man along as she's been doing to you. Sending her flowers
would be a mistake beyond all mistakes, even if it's meant as a friendly
gesture. Do you want to stir up trouble for her new lover? And I wouldn't take
her back. She's really not worth your time. "Break" is girl language for "you're
cramping my style and my style is party girl." Let her grow up...at least 5
years.In the meantime, look for meaning in women who can really appreciate
you.-E
- answered by Grace My Name
Answer #11
No, not a good idea to send her flowers, she had a prince and kicked you to the
curb. Being only 20, in reality, she was to young to know what real love was.
No need to keep opening the wound for yourself. It's very difficult, please
close this chapter in your life, learn from the mistakes, and believe me, the
right one is out there, that will appreciate you very much. Much good luck!
- answered by Ms. Slicker
Answer #12
Honestly... if you really wanna send someone flowers... I say you should send
them to me. You seem like a pretty cool guy and I wouldnt waste my time sending
her flowers... I dont know the girl so its hard to say, but she might think that
she has you there and can go back to you and play with your feelings as she so
chooses.Move on, one day she will realize what she lost... but everything
happens for a reason and you will find the person you were meant to be with
- answered by Shy_and_Sexy
Answer #13
Dont waste your time.
- answered by Chris K
Answer #14
The fact that she called you to first tell you she thinks about you every day
and then to tell you she is seeing someone new tells me she is very immature.
She did this knowing it would bother you. If I were you, I would not send
flowers or even call on V-Day. If you honestly feel that one day you two may get
back together, you need to wait until you both are ready and let that happen
naturally. I would say that she is not ready to be in a committed relationship,
and sending flowers seems like you would be trying to force something that isn't
there. Move on as best as you can, you don't have to erase her from your heart
and your memories, but for the time being, I would let your wounds try to heal
and meet someone new. For all you know you could find someone that makes you
realize you two really aren't meant to be. Good Luck, and try to do something
fun on V-Day to take your mind off of her.
- answered by Erin
Answer #15
NO why waste your money but you know she knows you and she knows you will send
her something so fool her!! don't send her nothing let her wonder where you are
who you are with .........maybe you need to let her go find a new love good luck
happy valentines day
- answered by njdcutty
Answer #16
You're sweet to think of her, but she has a boyfriend. That is going to make him
incredibly jealous, and do you really want to do that to another guy? Just
remember how much she hurt you. Plus, she does not deserve those flowers. No
girl just calls her ex to "be nice." We aren't wired that way; we either call
because we miss him and want him back or to be a jerk. If she wants you she'll
say it and dump him. V-day is hard without a special someone, but don't let her
take that spot.
- answered by lilakgrl
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